“What if we didn’t all grow up hearing that true love is obsessive and possessive? What if we revered the dignity and autonomy of those we loved? If fear is removed from jealousy, what’s left?”
Helping you deconstruct relationships norms
I aim to help transform the way people approach relationships by challenging our mononormative conditioning and rediscovering a more sustainable, more authentic, more freeing and more loving way to do what humans do best: connect.
Questioning everything you were taught about love?
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Looking for someone who gets it?
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Relationship structure education for the curious and the brave.
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Questioning everything you were taught about love? 〰️ Looking for someone who gets it? 〰️ Relationship structure education for the curious and the brave. 〰️
HOW IT WORKS
Whether you're just starting to question everything you were taught about love, or you're deep in the beautiful chaos of building a non-traditional relationship life — you don't have to figure it out alone.
Here's what I offer:
🌈 One-on-One Sessions Private sessions via Zoom where we dig into your specific situation — your relationship structure, your questions, your challenges. No judgment, no agenda, just honest conversation and practical tools. Sessions are available on a standalone or package basis.
📚 Education & Guidance Not ready for one-on-one work? Follow along on Instagram and Substack for free relationship structure education, real talk about non-monogamy, and a community of people doing the same unprogramming work you are.
💬 Peer Support Sometimes you just need someone who gets it. Someone who has lived it, thought deeply about it, and can sit with you in it. That's what I'm here for.
Ready to start? Book a free 15-minute discovery call — no pressure, just a conversation.
A little bit about me
I am not your typical relationship coach. I take a different approach to guiding people through renegotiating their monogamy or opening up to polyamory. This is less about the “how” of successfully managing alternative relationship formats, and more about the “why”.
My name is Lulu and I have spent the better part of my life thinking about relationships - probably just like you. For the longest time, I thought monogamy was the highest moral standard and that as a woman, it was my duty, nay, my purpose, to be coupled up with a man and to forsake everything else, including myself. I was in a monogamous marriage, I cheated on multiple occasions, I harbored shame and resentment towards myself for not finding happiness in the cookie cutter relationships I was doomed to fail at.
Luckily, 8 years ago, I became familiar with non-monogamy and I dove into every possible book and experiences I could find to truly understand my (and others) ability to relate and prioritize people rather than blindly subscribing to a relationship format based on control and sexual repression.
I will spend most of our time together on deconstructing the beliefs that aren’t your own and build a value system that is fully yours. Why monogamy? why polyamory? I’ll help you answer these questions and entangle the web of lies that has surrounded sexual and romantic exclusivity for far too long.
“Love cannot be forced to flow or be prevented from flowing in any particular direction...It is the surrendering of conditioned beliefs about the form a loving relationship should take and allowing love itself to determine the form most appropriate for all parties”
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